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To take on and seize almost any moment
Of any day.

Sunday, September 9, 2012

A Perspective: Time Away From Our Children

A friend, and someone who is really one of the nicest people I have ever known, wrote a post on Facebook.  She wrote:

"I am always perplexed when I hear moms say they can't wait for their kids to go back to school or they can't wait for moms night out. Working and still doing all the mom things ( cleaning, grocery shopping, PTO, Sunday school and youth activities, laundry...)"

My first thought was, well, I am one of those moms.  I really enjoy spending some time away from my children every day.  I dearly love my children, I like being with my children, I am grateful to have them in my life.  I made the decision and took appropriate steps to leave my professional career to stay home with my children.

The fact is, I find the immaturities and irrational natures of children quite taxing.  I find it physically, emotionally, and mentally stressful to be around children for long periods of time without some away time.  That does not mean that I do not like children, or that I do not deeply love and appreciate my children.  It does not mean that I don't want to be a stay-at-home mom.  I take the privilege and responsibility of being a mother quite seriously and I am sincerely grateful for those blessings.

I know that my friend, who is an amazing mother and school teacher, has been given the beautiful gifts that allow her to feel the way she does and to wonder how it is even possible to feel any differently about a mother's desire to spend time with her own children.  I know that we are not all given the same gifts, talents, abilities, or personalities.  I know there are lots of really amazing mothers who feel the same way I do.  I am grateful for the friends in my life who do not share my perspective.  It reminds me to be open minded and to be careful not to judge others.


Yo Momma Runs said...

I'm another mom who enjoys time away to get a fresh mental perspective. It definitely helps me to see the big picture and be better at my mom duties. Amory needs it with his work work, so I see it as the same thing with my work as a mom. The job is very rewarding, but it is important for me to sometimes step away and take a deep breath. Thanks for writing this!

Brooke said...

Amen lady! our kids need to see us be human beings instead of just moms. how can we all be happy and well rounded if we feel too guilty to go on a walk or a date or have friends and we spend all of our time cleaning and cookie and playing peekaboo? we are all built differently and beautifully.
thank you. xoxo